weddingPick how close you are to the couple, who you are bringing, where the wedding is and how formal it is. You get a fair dollar range in seconds, next to what guests report giving in The Knot and Zola surveys.
Four quick picks and we will suggest a fair gift range.
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Sources: The Knot 2024 Guest Study and Zola 2026 First Look Report, checked September 2026.
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Short answer: most wedding guests give $100 to $150. Close friends and family tend to give more, coworkers and acquaintances less, and bringing a date or your kids moves the number up. At a destination wedding, your travel counts toward the gift and a smaller amount is normal.
The calculator turns those rules into a range for your situation. The published numbers behind them are below, each linked to its source.
What guests reported spending on a wedding gift in The Knot 2024 Guest Study. Close friends, family and the wedding party averaged $160, casual friends $140.
Source: The KnotFrom Zola's 2026 First Look Report, with most guests landing between $100 and $150.
Source: ZolaThe average a couple spent per guest on a 2025 wedding, across every cost, in The Knot 2026 Real Weddings Study.
Source: The KnotThe calculator's starting range for each relationship (solo guest, mid-size city, semi-formal wedding) next to what Zola and The Knot publish.
| Relationship | Calculator range | Published guidance |
|---|---|---|
| Close family (parent, sibling) | $200 - $500 | Zola: $150 to $200+ for immediate family, close friends and the wedding party. The Knot average for this group: $160. |
| Extended family (cousin, aunt, uncle) | $100 - $250 | Zola: $100 to $150 for a friend or relative. |
| Close friend | $100 - $250 | Zola: $150 to $200+. The Knot average for close friends: $160. |
| Coworker or colleague | $75 - $150 | Zola: $75 to $100 for a coworker. |
| Acquaintance or distant friend | $50 - $100 | Zola: $75 to $100. The Knot average for a casual friend: $140. |
Guidance checked September 2026: Zola, How Much to Spend on a Wedding Gift and The Knot 2024 Guest Study.
Three picks adjust your starting range. Bringing a guest raises it, because the couple is hosting more people. A big-city venue or a black-tie reception raises it too, while a small-town or backyard wedding brings it down. Zola's own rule for a plus-one is 1.5 to 2 times your usual amount, so the calculator's 1.5x for a couple sits at the low end of that.
A destination wedding asks a lot of guests before the envelope even comes up. Zola says it is fine to spend less on the gift than you would for a local wedding, and the calculator applies 0.7x when you pick Destination Wedding.
Often the biggest line. Booking early with the couple's travel info saves the most.
Room blocks at resorts usually need two or three nights, not one.
Welcome drinks, excursions and a farewell brunch add small costs across the trip.
Invited to a destination wedding you cannot travel to? You skip the trip costs, so a gift closer to your normal local amount is a kind way to send your love.
Couples and guests do not see this one the same way. Zola asked both sides in its First Look Report.
of couples say they would rather receive a cash gift over anything else.
of guests say they prefer to give a cash gift.
of couples add at least one cash fund to their registry. The honeymoon fund is still number one.
Source: Zola First Look Report, checked September 2026.
Writing the card for a cash gift? Our wedding cash fund wording guide has lines that do not sound awkward.
Emily Post's etiquette team gives three acceptable moments. After three months, send it anyway, with a note.
Ship registry gifts straight to the couple's address, or send money online. Nothing to carry on the day.
Cash or a check in a signed card is fine to bring. Large boxes are awkward for the couple to haul home.
Emily Post's current guidance: send your gift within three months after the wedding. The old one-year rule has been put to bed.
"The old rule of a year to send a wedding gift has long been put to bed."
Emily Post, Etiquette Today: Wedding Gifts (September 2025)
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Each relationship starts from a base range: $200 to $500 for close family, $100 to $250 for extended family and close friends, $75 to $150 for coworkers and $50 to $100 for acquaintances. Your other three picks multiply that range, and the result is rounded to the nearest $5.
The base ranges sit around the published guidance from Zola and The Knot, with more room at the top for close family, where many guests give more than the all-guest averages. If the top of your range strains the budget, the bottom of it is still a normal gift.
Cover your plate is a common rule of thumb: give at least what the couple spent to host you. The Knot's 2026 Real Weddings Study puts the average couple's spend at $292 per guest for 2025 weddings, but that figure covers every cost of the day, not only the dinner.
Emily Post's etiquette team disagrees with the rule itself: a guest should not be told, or be guessing, the per-person cost of the wedding. Give what fits your budget and your relationship, and let the calculator keep you in a normal range.
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Most guests give between $100 and $150. The Knot 2024 Guest Study found an average wedding gift of $150 ($160 for close friends, family and the wedding party, $140 for a casual friend), and Zola's 2026 First Look Report puts the average at $130. Close family often give more. Use the calculator above for a range that fits your relationship, who you bring and the wedding style.
It starts from a base range for your relationship ($200 to $500 for close family down to $50 to $100 for an acquaintance), then multiplies it: 1.5x as a couple or 1.75x with family, 1.3x for a major city or 0.85x for a small town, and 1.4x for black tie, 0.8x for a casual wedding or 0.7x for a destination wedding. The result is rounded to the nearest $5.
Yes. In Zola's First Look Report, 70% of couples said they would rather receive a cash gift over anything else, and 87% of couples add at least one cash fund to their registry. Emily Post's etiquette team says it is fine to send cash or a check before or after the wedding, or to bring it to the wedding itself.
Yes. The calculator raises the range by 1.5x when you attend as a couple and by 1.75x with family. Zola suggests spending 1.5 to 2 times your usual amount when you bring a plus-one.
Less than you would for a local wedding is fine, since your flights and hotel are part of what you are giving. The calculator applies 0.7x for a destination wedding, so a close friend's range drops from $100 to $250 to $70 to $175. Zola gives the same advice.
Before the wedding, at the wedding, or within three months after it. Emily Post's etiquette team says the old rule of having a year to send a wedding gift has long been put to bed.
Many guests who are close to the couple still send a gift when they cannot attend. If a gift is not in your budget, Emily Post's advice is to send a card with thoughtful words of congratulations. No couple wants a guest to go into debt for their wedding.
Zola suggests a 20-20-60 split when you are invited to all three events: about 20% of your total gift budget for the engagement gift, 20% for the shower and 60% for the wedding.
The base ranges come from US etiquette guides and are shown in US dollars. The logic still works elsewhere: closeness, who you bring and how formal the wedding is move the amount the same way. Adjust the numbers to what is normal in your family and your local currency.